Bold Boundaries: The Sacred Friendship Gathering


I’m taking a break from our discussion of The Crowd, The Critic, and The Muse to let you folks know about something that is near to my heart.

Last April, I had the opportunity to attend the Sacred Friendship Gathering and blog about it. You can read the recap of the weekend here and here. It was an amazing event and I was honored and touched to have an opportunity to hear people share openly about their cross-gender friendships. I had a chance to talk through some of my own concerns and frustrations with people who were further down the path and they helped give me the language that I needed to sort through some of my own issues. It was a very exciting opportunity and it changed how I spoke about my friendship with Rich.

This year I have the privilege of being one of the speakers at the Sacred Friendship Gathering. I’m so excited to be able to share about the idea of “Love Without Boundaries.”

But what’s even cooler is that Rich is going to be going with me and we’re going to be speaking together about the role that music has played in our friendship. There are lots of reasons why we’re friends, but music is our closest bond. I’m so looking forward to sharing in word and music how that has played a role in our relationship.

One of the things that I’m very excited about with this event is that there are several members of the clergy who have close cross-gender friends, and they will be sharing about their relationships as well. Most of the negative information that I heard about friendship between men and women came from pastors, so I love that there are folks like Kathy Escobar and Jim Henderson who will be challenging the idea that men and women can’t serve together closely in ministry.

If you would like to attend this event, you can register here. Early registration is only $85 for two days, and that includes three meals. I promise, that’s a fantastic rate for this event.

In the meantime, you can follow us on Twitter or like the Facebook page for updates about the conference.

I would absolutely love to see you there.

  • Lisa Colón DeLay

    I was just shot down asking a man when I asked him to be my leadership mentor for one of my my Master’s degree program requirements (I already have a female mentor as a spiritual mentor for one of the spots). Wonderful, talented man of God, but said he didn’t agree that men and women should be in this type of relationship, and that I should ask a woman. Too much temptation in this set up, he said…. Maybe I shouldn’t have been topless at the time I asked him.

    Just kidding!
    I emailed him.

    I think another man will step up and help me…I want the benefit of both genders as I’m learning.

    Glad you’re taking up this cause, Alise! We need to change the sub-culture from the inside out.

    • Alise Wright


      Seriously, I do think the perspective from different genders is important. And beneficial. And I’m tired of fear being the voice that wins.

  • Alise Wright

    I think that a lot of these problems arise because we have not given an context for cross-gender friendships. I wrote about this recently in my Friendship & Attraction posts. I would encourage you to read them to see where I’m coming from. Thanks for stopping by!

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