Ask a Mixed Faith Couple

atheist husband

My favorite descriptor EVER.

I have been a big fan of Rachel Held Evans’s “Ask A…” series since its inception. I always enjoy reading through the questions and I have been consistently impressed by the answers given.

So I’m really excited and a little bit nervous to be participating in the series with my atheist husband Jason (Because that’s his primary job, right? Being an atheist?)! Excited because it’s always an honor to talk about our marriage, nervous because there have been some pretty stellar entries in that series and it’s kind of intimidating. Today you can head over to Rachel’s blog and ask us the pressing questions that you’ve always wanted to know about being married to someone who doesn’t share your belief system. The way this works is that you can ask questions and vote for your favorite questions today only. Rachel will choose the most popular questions and then in a week, she’ll post our responses to those questions. Which means we’ll probably be pulling an all-nighter next Monday. Because procrastination.

Anyway, I’d love for you to stop by Rachel’s blog today and to ask us questions. I’ll be sure to link up our answers here next week as well.

  • SusanRogersStLaurent

    What was it like when your husband first “came out,” so to speak? How did the people around you treat you both?

  • Heather

    Hi Alyse – copying my comment/question/desperate soul-searching plea for help – from Rachel Held Evan’s blog, in case it is not selected as one of the questions you and Jason address. My husband questioned his faith seriously a few years ago. I was sad,
    but never thought it would break our marriage. He ended up coming back
    to faith, and is more solid than ever. I, on the other hand, have had
    several long bouts with doubt and am going through another. Alise, have
    you ever doubted? If so, how have you continued to believe when living
    with an atheist? Sometimes I wonder exactly what I’m hanging on to… I should also say that I come out of a strict evangelical background. I went to a strict evangelical college, and it seems to me that what Christians often appear to love most is determining who among them is truly legit. The way, say, South Americans love ‘football’.

  • Heartbroken

    I was having some trouble posting on Rachel’s site, so I thought I’d ask some questions here, if that’s OK.

    1) Did you go through a grieving process when your husband decided to leave the faith? If so, how long did it take? It’s been 3 years now, and I’m still grieving the loss of our common foundation. We don’t have as much in common as you and Jason seem to, so our marriage often feels empty and I often feel lonely in it.

    2) Do you and/or your Christian family/friends pray for Jason to return to Christ? Does anyone have discussions with him to try to bring him back to faith? If yes to either or both of those, does Jason resent those efforts?